Sunday, December 18, 2011

And now it's Sunday

Ahhh I slept till 7:00am, and it feels good!

OK update: the surgeon can not get an OR room until Friday Dec.23rd.  Yesterday morning sober daughter called in melt down, husband says he can not take any more of her melt downs, depression and never ending medical emergencies and said he wants his life back.  I throw on my clothes and go over there (he was gone) and we spent the day together.  We decided that he had had his meltdown and not to view it as the end of the world or their marriage it was just every ones emotions coming to a head.  He went to their AA club and so she and I got to work.  I had one side of a sink to work with but plenty of hot water and cleaning supplies.  We found a soothing water something or other CD, put that on, cleaned, talked, cried, took coffee breaks, sat out in the grass and talked about God, cleaned some more, cried etc.  His mother came over to bring her some comfy slippers and I've only met her once, but she started cleaning and crying with us.  She talked about how immature her son was but that he had the most wonderful caring spirit like my daughter.  We had a cleaning, healing day of it. I took her to Goodwill to buy a new blouse, then she called her husband and suggested a dinner out (that the mother in law and I were springing for) and it would be a meal with no conversation about money or medical issues and he agreed.  I left and came home.  She text me at 11:00pm and said they were going to a sober jam (she plays guitar) where there was going to be dominoes played too (he plays dominoes) and she said text "Ma-did you know that God always uses you to talk to me when I am crazy?"

Today I will re-group my roller coaster emotions of the week.  I will go to a meeting, I will do my laundry for the week, pay some bills, maybe watch a movie on TV.  I may or may not get out of my pajamas.  Unless she calls of course and the whole thing starts again which is always a possibility but I feel strong today, and God's grace is all over me.

11 comments:

Marcia said...

cleaning and crying. sounds like a good way to heal.

Anonymous said...

i'm with marcia. cleaning and crying = cathartic to me. you inspire me pammie to be a better person. and i think God is using you to talk to me also. thank you both.

Kristin H. said...

This is some beautiful stuff, Pam. The part about her saying that God uses you to talk to her made me tear up.

madyson007 said...

Interestingly...I sometimes think God talks to me through my addict and if I can just listen, we can both grow.

Annette said...

Yes what Kristin H. said. Same part made me tear up and you Pam are a kind and humble person...beautiful traits in a human being. I wanna be like you when I grow up.

Lou said...

Let's make it all about Pammie today. You need and deserve it.

Annette said...

I linked back to your blog again....I hope you don't mind. I would have emailed you but couldn't find your email anywhere on your site here. If you don't like it just say the word and I will take it down.

Mary Christine said...

I swear I left a comment this morning. Oh well. It's beautiful to hear of everyone pitching in. Wish I could come over and do something. And I hope you get some rest today Pammie.

Patty said...

Tears and God bumps while I read this Pammie. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

Syd said...

I am so glad that you are feeling better and peaceful. That is a wonderful thing. You needed some peace in your life.

Mary LA said...

All love to you and sober daughter, Pammie.