My hippie/bohemian/multi tattooed/spiritual daughter, has 5 years clean and sober this week. For those of you from my old blog............can you believe it? Do you know what I did to cause this big ass miracle? Not a damn thing.
I've had a difficult time reading responses "comments" on another blog this morning. Non addicts having a wealth of scientific knowledge provided by a treatment "Industry." Permission from some sort of authorities to do some sort of forced recovery on their addict children.
I am a drug addict. My brain is wired for addiction. My 21 years clean has not wiped out the pain and misery of the past, nor has it wiped out the allure either. Getting high still sounds damn good to me. The consequences of getting high make me do everything in my power to stay connected to God so that I will have the "God given Power" to choose differently.
My daughter is a drug addict. Her brain is wired for addiction. I can respond to her in any old way I want to....as a Mother, and it will not re-wire her brain. The boundaries we set for ourselves are just "ours." They don't have a magic power over the addict. "If I refuse to help the addict while they are using then they will magically hit a bottom and begin the recovery process." If that is "THEIR" boundary then fine, but there is not a magic power in this. No one prays for magic cures more than the parents of drug addicts.
Help your addict or don't help your addict. There is no magic in either decision. I know they appear to be idiots but they are not. An addict is very very resourceful. You are sometimes a resource.
OK....I know I'm rambling. I see these kids everyday. I love on these kids and most of them I assure you are not very lovable! Most of them don't want to give up the drugs. Most of us didn't want to. It is not my responsibility to make someone want to stop using. But I give you my word.....if your child comes into my meeting and says "help".............I will stop the world and scoop them up and teach them how "we" do it.
Of course, I had to pray that others would do that for my daughter........and they did.