Sunday, February 19, 2012
Serving the Necomer in a way that is helpful
I am having some major problems relating to newcomers who have asked me to sponsor them and I am having to take a hard and painful look at where I am right now in relation to this. I am talking to women in their 3,4,5 years of sobriety and how they are relating to their sponsees and I am realizing that they are much more in tune with these new women. I am hearing them talk on the same level as I used to be able to talk, but my memory of "feelings" is just not as strong as theirs. The very last thing in the world I want to do is short change a new comer, or be a dis-service to them. I may need to go back to H & I meetings where we just present the beautiful program but aren't sponsoring the women in the room. I may need to simply go to meetings and share my experience, strength and hope at the meeting then go home. I may need to be one of those sponsors who just take women who are already firmly planted in sobriety, back through the steps or through the BB. I know I have a place in the fellowship but it is becoming painfully clear that maybe my place isn't in sponsoring brand new sobriety. I will just pray about this and let God show me "what's up." God knows my heart and knows how much I love the newcomer so I'm sure he'll find a way for me to serve in a useful way.