Saturday, December 24, 2011

Saturday Morn Update

Surgery lasted 2 hours.
It was a bad morning to begin with because when I got to her house at 4:00am you could cut the tension with a knife.  She was just trying to keep from crying.  She and my son in law had an awful fight the night before.
He would not speak, so she shut down and it was just awful.
I went back with them to her house after the surgery and he left.  She and I crawled into her bed together and slept for 3 hours.
I tried to talk to him a little when he came back but he wouldn't say anything. 
I left there at 8:00 to come home and go to bed.  I have to have her back downtown for them to remove the bandages and "look".
There was a text message on my phone this morning from him saying that she was in tremendous pain and throwing up which was causing worse pain since she can not bend her head over like that.  They had put a call into the doctor on call.  That was a 2:00am message.  I wish they had called me.  I message beep on my cell phone does not wake me up. 
I was really praying to wake up differently than this. Another day of this toxic "resentment" feeling I have for my son in law, and another day of my child in physical and emotional pain. Oh well. Here we go.

11 comments:

dAAve said...

Good lord.
I can only hope that you find all you need from your HP today.

Mary Christine said...

Jeez, Louise. I think I resent him too. Thank God that girl has YOU for her mama. Please take care, and know that some lady in Colorado (me) is praying for you both.

Patty said...

Praying here in Ohio too.

Marcia said...

Sending prayers from Michigan.

Annette said...

Oh Pam, I can't imagine throwing up right after eye surgery! That just makes me cringe.

I am praying.

Anna said...

I pray for all of you to stay strong. It seems to me that the hospitals discharge people now to suffer. They expect the family to know how to care for the ones who are sufferring without any instructions. I know there are some meds that can be given to stop vomitting......... maybe composine...... I hope this turns around for all of you soon.

Syd said...

I am sorry, Pammie. I hope that things will get better. Sometimes two people collide in the HALT moment and sparks fly--hopefully, the incendiary stuff burns out soon and the good times will be back for them both and for you. It takes one to push buttons and the other to react. I was an expert at both.

Let Go, Let God said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless and best outcome to this current life lesson. Love surrounds you, yes it does.

Mary LA said...

Take care Pammie and I hope your daughter feels better today. Sending all my love to you

Lou said...

Prayers from Kentucky. I want to hug both of you, it makes me so sad.
But Pammie, you are so incredibly strong. God has put a solid soul, a granite ball of faith in all your children's lives (and all others you give of yourself to). Your determination driven love comes across in your posts all the time. I'm so glad you have her back.

Love you and thinking of you.

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

Still praying for her, the son-in-law and you to find peace, healing and love.